Suzanne, 52, has been in a relationship with Eugène, 74, for 2 years: “I was single after a divorce which left me grounded. Eugène had lost his wife to an illness which had been quite devastating. We sometimes crossed paths in the street since we lived in the same neighborhood He came to talk to me after leaving the bakery one Sunday morning. He immediately told me that he saw that I was often alone and that he was. could invite me to drink coffee. I liked this somewhat old-fashioned look. Yes, he was clearly an older man than me. I think I still look rather young, but he looks “old man”. yet I accepted. The seduction was intellectual before being physical, I think there was something about him that appealed to me beyond the question of beauty. men to be really beautiful They manage to please others. things, humor, confidence, a social position With Eugène, I liked his attitude, his gentleness and his confidence too, yes.”
“Without all the dramatic passion of youth”
Suzanne and Eugène set up meetings for a while: “There were several months of meetings without anything happening. He was courting me, as he said. His intentions were clear and my desire to see also. But we took our time. I think that's also the advantage of relationships that happen later in life. We feel less rushed. We meet for coffee before I leave for work, almost. every day at least every other day We also saw each other. a little on the weekend. We did a few museum visits. It was very simple and very easy. I didn't feel oppressed. I tested the dating apps a bit before starting to see him. It wasn't the same atmosphere at all. That's why I ended up giving up. When I met Eugène, I found exactly what I was looking for. A lot of respect. interest in me and in my life, a curiosity about the world, a culture. These were times when I always felt good. And then one day he asked me if he could kiss me. The timing was perfect. The desire was there. Then there was an evening meeting that ended up at my house, when my son was not there. It was perfect again. I didn't realize it but I was already in love. And I was happy to be in love like that, without all the dramatic passion of youth.”
He can get sick or even die
Their relationship is welcomed with enthusiasm by those close to them: “My sons reacted very well. They didn't want me to end up alone and were afraid of it. They found that Eugène was very good. I think they were worried too that I continue the stories with men who are younger or my age, but who would still have been a little immature. Eugene's age reassured them. And he also wanted to be clear about his intentions very quickly. didn't want of a story that only lasts a few weeks. He wanted the last love story of his life. Of course, my sons thought that Eugene was already old and that he could get sick or even die. spoke too. And Eugene is in good health. He takes great care of himself and does so even more now that he is with me. He is the one who takes care of me and checks that I don't get sick. is very caring. For his part, he has a daughter who is, obviously, much older than my sons. She also reacted well to the formalization of our relationship. She just wants to see her father happy. I believe that if it went well it is also and above all because Eugène is a very good and beautiful person. He only attracts that kind of positivity around him. Everyone wishes him well and is happy with his happiness. That’s what he brings into my life too.”
If they talk about the future, Suzanne and Eugène especially want to enjoy the present: “Yes, Eugène is an old man. And yes, he could disappear at any moment. But so do I. You don't think about that when you're in love in your twenties or even thirty. But it can happen to anyone in the end. So we live a little day by day. We make plans for months, but we don't have reasonable plans. No vacation on the other side of the world. There's nothing that makes me happier than going to the market with him, drinking our coffee together, reading side by side. I don't need more with him.”
According to an INSEE study, 6 out of 10 men are older than their partners but only 8% of couples have more than 10 years of age difference. In recent years we have noticed an evolution: the average age gap seems to be widening. How do these couples who almost a generation opposes live? Is it possible to have a balanced relationship when both partners are not at the same time in their lives?
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