Married for 10 years and in a relationship for 20, an anonymous woman is experiencing a real emotional earthquake. Growing suspicions about her husband’s behavior at the gym lead her to a shocking discovery: her husband is having an affair with a young woman he met at his training site. The pain of betrayal mixes with anger towards this younger woman, perceived as ideal, relates
The Sun.
“I am 40 and he is 42. We have been married for ten years and together for 20 years. A few months ago I had doubts because of the time he spent at the gym“, confides Hélène. “While snooping through his phone, I came across text messages exchanged in French, explicit emojis leaving no doubt about the nature of their relationship.“
“I would have liked to scream at her, to make her understand the harm she caused”
Hurt and humiliated, the wife finds herself faced with a flood of contradictory emotions. The anger towards the mistress is strong, fueled by the feeling of having been betrayed by her husband and replaced by a younger woman. She tries to communicate with her husband and, although he claims to have ended the affair and begs for forgiveness, the anger towards the mistress remains tenacious.
“I sent him messages to let him know I knew. It was complicated because everything had to be translated.
I would have liked to scream at her, to make her understand the harm she caused“, she continues in her testimony. “Those around me and my husband advise me not to contact her, but I feel that I need to tell her my truths.” Lost, she then sought advice from Deidre, relationship expert for The
Sun.
We must now let go to succeed in moving forward.
And the expert is rather clear in her positioning: expressing anger to the mistress will only bring temporary satisfaction and will not resolve the root problem. The young woman is now out of the game, the choice was made by her husband. It is now on the couple and their solidity that everything rests.
If she really feels the need to express herself, calling on a professional could be a solution. By releasing your anger and pain with a therapist, the wife will be able to begin real reconstruction work. The goal is to move beyond resentment and focus on the marital relationship, evaluating whether reconstruction is possible and desired. Forgiveness and reconstruction will be long and fraught with pitfalls, but expressing your suffering to a therapist could be an essential step in moving forward.
