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Unfortunately, this type of behavior has consequences, “in other spheres of life: family, friendship, but also professional,” continues Corinne Chantegrelet. Indeed, the good girl syndrome is likely to “generate anxiety, guilt, devaluation, even defeat or sabotage”.
The role of parents in question
This syndrome often results from a form of conditioning, since childhood. “To parents who have a child who presents this typology, I would advise them above all to look at how they participated – or are participating – in this problem,” continues Corinne Chantegrelet. And to illustrate: “a simple sentence, repeated in all possible modes and on several subjects, such as, for example: ‘eat your soup, come on, please mom’ will lead the child to adjust to the desires of the other and to put aside his own, at the risk, one day, of no longer ‘feeling’ his own desires and desires. And if, “at the end of the soup, Mom adds: ‘you know I love you’… an internal process takes place: ‘I eat my soup, mom is happy, mom loves me’. So ‘if I forget myself, I’m loved’…”
Note that this syndrome was first theorized in women but it can also concern men. In all cases, if it continues into adolescence and adulthood, getting out of this spiral generally involves psychotherapeutic treatment.
