Saying goodbye to those you love is not easy, it therefore happens to delay the inevitable. This is what a British Internet user did, who recently shared her story on the anonymous confidence account Fesshole, on X, formerly Twitter.
After the death of her mother, this Internet user continued to tell her parts of her life by email for several years.
“After my mother died, I sent him emails from time to time to tell him what we were doingwith his grandchildren, she says. But after four years, the link that lasted as best it could was suddenly cut. “My last email cannot be sent because his messaging is saturated. I’m a little upset, it was my way of staying close to her. I love you mom.”
A moving story
Upsetting, his story sparked numerous reactions on X. Some Internet users expressed their compassion, having gone through similar ordeals after the death of one of their loved ones. “I understand how you feel. Before I got hacked on Facebook a few months ago, I was sending my best friend, who died two years ago, messages about my life. Now, even if I go back on Facebook with another account, I wouldn’t be able to add him as a friend.”
Another user, upset by the recent death of his mother, explains that he kept in touch with her by SMS. “My mother died three weeks ago and I can’t delete her voicemails. I text her to tell her about my day, it’s become my daily diary.”
Writing to a deceased loved one, an effective mourning exercise
According to some specialists, writing to a deceased loved one is far from being a trivial gesture. It would even be an excellent way to mourn, since it would allow you to express all the feelings and emotions that, perhaps, would not have been transmitted before the death of the person.
“This exercise is one of the most effective in facilitating the journey of mourning, write Rosetta Poletti and Barbara Dobbs in their book Experiencing grief and growth.
At any time after mourning, find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed and take a blank sheet of paper and something to write with; then start writing a letter to the deceased person where you will tell them your regrets, your resentments and your gratitude for everything that this relationship gave you. In their work, Rosetta Poletti and Barbara Dobbs nevertheless advise burning the letter after writing it.a way of leaving the past in the past.
