Reinventing love: Valentine’s Day: 10 Books to question the couple

Books on couples and sologamy

#MeFirst! Manifesto for feminine selfishnessCorinne Maier, Ed. from the Observatory

Become aware Despite society’s debates on equality and the deconstruction of the myths of love, it is clear that women still (too!) often put their well-being aside to take care of their partner, family or entourage. Like ego-therapy, this book, both pamphlet and practical guide, challenges this implacable observation and brings relief to heterosexual women. In summary, the Franco-Swiss psychoanalyst Corinne Maier (author of Out kids!Ed. Albin Michel) campaigns to appropriate a saving selfishness culturally left to men, and suggests eliminating the inner voice that Virginia Wolf called “the angel of the home”, which whispers to women to be servants of domestic life.

The keys to love intelligence, 15 rituals to take care of your relationshipFlorentine D’Aulnois-Wang, Ed. Larousse

love yourself better Expert in couples therapy and creator of the podcast L’Espace de Couple, TedX speaker, Florentine D’Aulnois-Wang publishes a new edition of her optimistic book The keys to love intelligence. In order to put tensions and possible heavy silences on the doormat of the house, the author offers a host of advice inspired by attachment theory, positive psychology and neuroscience. Exercises will help us understand, among other things, the impact of our childhood on our life as a couple and how to communicate with others without shouting or remaining silent.

Fuck, where did my relationship go?!Anne-Sophie Lesage, Fanny Lesage and Léna Piroux, Ed. Solar

Reinvent After the success of their book The one who said “Fuck”the Lesage sisters and Léna Piroux try to bring the couple home with a 100% fictional work. In this graphic novel full of humor and self-deprecation, Alice has only one idea in mind: to thwart the anxiety-provoking predictions of a scientific study which announces the end of the couple in around twenty years… In her great investigation to save love, this true blue flower offers to restore the magic, the marks of affection and the first thrills in the couple. A guide to reconnecting with (new) love codes, to devour on Valentine’s Day and beyond.

Why through polyamory, deconstruct the myth of monogamy for allMarie-Claude L’Archer, Ed. Man’s editions

To spill Polyamorous people are afraid of commitment, are unfaithful and give themselves a clear conscience… In her new work, Marie-Claude L’Archer dissects the prejudices that we may have about people who embrace polyamory. In a thorough investigation, the author of Compersion. Transcending jealousy in polyamoryalso dismantles the myths of monogamy. Jealousy, codependency, sacrificial feelings and incompleteness: over the pages we detach ourselves from a bunch of received ideas inherited from society, culture and undoubtedly a little from our education.

What is love?Ovidie, Ed. La Martinière Youth, ALT Collection

Rethink In her book released in September 2023, the feminist director and author of The flesh is sad alas (Ed. Julliard) delivers a personal text that deconstructs love and shares ways to experience it differently. Examples? It begins with the importance given to heartache, continues with the notion of endogamy which pushes us to fall in love with people from our social group, evokes the impact of culture on our conception of love and considers the option of sologamy, or the idea of ​​making self-love sacred, before welcoming the feelings of the other.

Books on sexuality

Enjoying in unison – The guide to putting an end to diktats and finding fulfilled sexuality as a coupleEmily Nagoski, Éd. Leduc

Unwind Constantly subject to injunctions and beliefs such as “the passion of the beginnings will eventually die out”, “it’s up to women to seduce men who, for their part, must be gods of sex” or “if he cheats on me, it’s my fault” and “I HAVE to have sex every day to maintain the desire”, we often don’t take full advantage of our sexuality. To help us deconstruct all these norms while offering some ideas for making the pleasure of life as a couple last in the long term, sex therapist Emily Nagoski delivers a little manual that is as useful as it is liberating. Enjoyable and to slip under all the pillows!

High erotic potentialStéphanie Chambran, Ed. Marabout

To understand We know this in theory: hypersensitive people and HPI have a somewhat particular functioning – and particularly when it comes to emotions, bodily sensations and, for that matter, sexuality. However, by understanding and accepting their singularities – a path that seems more complex than it actually is! – relationships can be wonderful. And this is what Stéphanie Chambran shows who, in this book, provides keys to understanding the specificities specific to these neuroatypicals as well as ways to develop their sensitivity to those who are not, in the idea of ​​”living freely and fully happiness under the duvet.

Everyone Watches It (Or Almost) – How Porn Destroys LoveThérèse Hargot, Ed. Albin Michel

To raise awareness According to the 2022 report Porn: The hell of the decor of the Senate in France, a third of Internet traffic concerns pornographic content and 58% of women victims of domestic violence whose partner consumed pornography believe that this has an impact on the attacks they suffer. For speaker, couples therapist and sexologist Thérèse Hargot, these figures, among others, are alarming. In his book Everyone is Watching (or Almost), the essayist describes the impact of pornography on mental, social, sexual and emotional health and why it is necessary to get out of this “infernal spiral” to reestablish a capacity to love.

Experience fulfilled sexuality through mindfulness meditationVirginie Baldeschi, Ed. The Musardine

Meditate Reduced stress, regulation of emotions, well-being, sleep… The benefits of mindfulness meditation on the brain and body are scientifically proven. However, one aspect is often left aside: sexuality. However, as practicing psychosexologist Virginie Baldeschi points out, this practice also has positive effects on intimacy: sensoriality, presence with oneself and others, etc. Easy to say? Also worth doing – in particular thanks to the exercises and guided meditations offered in this remarkable guide.

Dare to talk about love and sexuality with your childrenMaëlle Challan Belval, Ed. Dunod

Educate When we are young parents, we imagine that, when the time comes, talking to our grandchildren about love and sexuality will happen quite naturally. In reality, things are much more complex – especially since, via social networks, accessibility to pornography, advertising and fiction, our offspring are bombarded with sexual messages of which they do not understand the issues. . So… how do you avoid awkwardness? Signed Maëlle Challan Belval, this neat little guide provides very useful insights depending on ages and situations…

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