Creating a bond with your baby seems so obvious. And yet… While we think that the scenario worthy of a Hollywood film, which wants each mother to be completely taken by love at first sight the moment when her baby is placed on her, after the childbirth, is obvious, not so much. This is what we learn in Agathe Lecaron's podcast, Is it serious?. During the subject “Is it serious not to be able to bond with your baby?“, Agathe Lecaron spoke about her own experience. And she obviously did not experience this famous mutual love at first sight so coveted.
“I wasn't expecting this child at all.admitted the host, conductor of the show The Kindergarten House (France 2). When I had Gaspard on my stomach, I didn't create the link right away.” “I had a feeling it wasn't going to lastcontinue Agathe Lecaron. It's very complicated because we've been told so much that suddenly we're going to discover ultimate love. But what is this love? When will I feel this thing they told me about, this wave?“But the host, mother of two children – Gaspard and Felix, born respectively in 2014 and 2016 –, fruits of her love affair with her husband François Pellissier, general director of Business and sport at TF1, is far from being the only one in this case Indeed, the midwife Anna Roy, who viewers of the show La Maison des Maternelles know, is there to remind us of this, she wanted to clarify: “Mutual love at first sight like in the movies is quite rare. I'm lucky to have experienced it but in fact I haven't seen it in many women, in reality.” “It's quite rare to fall in love at first sightshe added. Totally normal.”
The opportunity for Agathe Lecaron to say more about her own experience. “Me Gaspard came out with the spoons, the guy looked like Donald Trump. I was expecting a little blond, he is brown with dark skin. Damn, he looks like his father and what's more, a deformed father.” “I talked to him like you meet someone at a dinner“, she jokes.
Advice from midwife Anna Roy: “I will panic after a few weeks”
“Is it serious that the link doesn't happen right away? Is this common? What to do when the link doesn't come? What goes on in the minds of women who don't fall in love at first sight? What does it take when love doesn't come?“, these are the questions that the three women asked themselves during this podcast. And if Aurélie Callet, clinical psychologist, affirmed that certain women sometimes take two years before creating a bond with their child, Anna Roy explained that, according to her, it was necessary to worry about it after a few weeks.I'll panic after a few weeks, I won't let it drag on“, she advised the listeners.
This difficulty in creating a bond can come from problems linked to childbirth (children placed in an incubator, health reasons inherent to the child), but also from mothers who experience postpartum depression, which prevents them from creating link. Finally, some women dream of childbirth, dream of a postpartum period and also fantasize about a baby. They may then have planned poorly and be disappointed. “Open up possible scenarios, because sometimes it's a cold shower“, advised Anna Roy.
