This tip would help share the mental load between the couple

This tip would help share the mental load between the couple
This tip would help share the mental load between the couple

Doing housework, picking up the children from school, or even planning vacations… In a couple, the smallest task to be done can potentially lead to an argument. And mainly when the mental load is not distributed. To avoid unnecessary interference, the user @cassidyskelton revealed on TikTok the technique she implemented with her partner. Called the “captain’s method”, it allows work to be distributed and favors cohesion and listening between two halves.

What is the captain’s method?

“ [Nous] we apply the so-called technique ofCaptain. Every area of ​​our life is managed by a captain and if you [l’êtes] you make all the decisions while the other listens”, explains the young woman in the introduction. To illustrate her point, Cassy Skelton explains: “For example, Nick [son conjoint, NDLR] is the captain of real estate. He interacts with the landlord while I am the captain of our money, so I pay the rent. Simply because he communicates better with the owner – that stresses me out – and I’m better with finances. »

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Here, it is simply a question of sharing tasks (and therefore the mental load) in order to allow everyone to take the lead in the areas where they feel most comfortable. Once the captain’s method is in place, the other no longer has to intervene when it is not his subject. “The other person doesn’t need to think, they do what they are asked.” This way, the person receiving the directives does not take them as orders but rather as tasks to be carried out so that everything goes well. In the kitchen, for example, the captain could be considered a chef while the other person would be his commis.

But in some cases, both halves can also intervene! Particularly when a couple has a young child who has not yet slept through the night. “If our child wakes up in the middle of the night and needs both parents, the captain wakes the other person”, specifies Cassidy Skelton. This way, the mental load is balanced and no one gets frustrated.

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