“Stop apologizing for living at home!” »launches Deena Margolin, therapist specializing in parenting, on her Instagram account. The specialist noticed that many parents regularly apologized for welcoming people into their home while the house was not perfectly tidy and cleaned. This regularly gives rise to this sentence: “Sorry for the mess!” »
The therapist reminds us that not all parents keep their house perfectly. “Being a parent is hard!” Parenting is a real mess. Parenting is imperfect. Being a parent means having bad days. Giving your kids frozen waffles for dinner, leaving the mess to clean up tomorrow (or the next day, or the day after that)… These things are not failures. A spotless home may not be an option at this stage of life. It’s not serious. Life is about balance »she explains.
An unattainable degree of perfection
She invites parents to stop setting very high expectations for themselves and to stop apologizing for not being perfect. This “degree of perfection is totally unattainable”. She advocates normalizing messiness, imperfection, letting kids be kids and letting some things go. This also helps show your child that he or she doesn’t have to be perfect. When you set very high standards for yourself, your child grows up to that image. And that can be difficult for him to follow.
