“Gamophobia” or the fear of committing to life as a couple

“Gamophobia” or the fear of committing to life as a couple
“Gamophobia” or the fear of committing to life as a couple

(ETX Daily Up) – Every year, November 11 is dedicated to singles. Because, these days, romantic commitment does not come naturally. More and more people are torn between the desire to meet their soul and the fear of forming a relationship with the one they love. A fear known as “gamophobia.”

Gamophobia refers to the intense fear of marriage and commitment.

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Commitment is a big step in romantic relationships. While some people want to get married and start a family, others are frightened by the idea of ​​being tied to the same person for life. This is called gamophobia. Concretely, this term refers to the intense fear of marriage and commitment. Gamophobia results in strong anxiety and an irresistible desire to escape the relationship. As with other phobias, these symptoms can last a long time, sometimes six months to several years.

According to Caroline Kruse, marriage and family counselor, interviewed by the Doctissimo site, individuals are often afraid of losing their independence. “We are afraid of losing the autonomy gained since we left our parents. Sometimes, this also reflects the fear of not being able to live up to the other’s demands,” analyzes the therapist. She also explains that growing up with parents who fought without providing a strong relationship model can make it difficult to trust commitment as an adult.

Rituals to overcome the fear of commitment

According to psychologist Mark Travers, past romantic relationships also contribute to gamophobia. “Those who have suffered from abusive relationships may develop a deep fear of commitment as a defense mechanism to avoid emotional turmoil,” he tells Psychology Today magazine. For the specialist, gamophobia would then act as a shield, protecting individuals from the potential emotional pain linked to commitment. In some cases, it may also be possible underlying relationship issues. Among them, attachment disorders, fear of intimacy, or even low self-esteem, which can also promote gamophobia. And this phobia is not without consequences. It can cause you to withdraw into yourself, and subsequently affect your relationship. A lack of understanding sets in within the couple, leading to conflict or even a breakup.

To remedy this phobia, the psychologist recommends establishing rituals and ceremonies symbolizing commitment within the couple. Citing a 2020 study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Mark Travers states that “rituals can change couples’ perceptions of their partners, offering them the opportunity to see them in a new light.” These rituals can take the form of small daily habits or real ceremonies, symbolizing shared experiences. “For example, if you both have a special connection to pear trees since childhood, planting a pear tree in your garden could mark your commitment to nurturing your connection just as you would with the tree,” suggests Mr. Cross.

Considering another vision of the couple is also a solution. The psychologist suggests finding lifestyles that are consistent with the partner’s values, such as separate marriage (partners live separately even while married). There is also the companionship relationship, which favors emotional intimacy rather than sexual relations. Thus, gamophobic people would no longer be subject to traditional romantic expectations.

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