Many women suffer from vaginismus, while many men face erection problems. When we realize that sexual blockages are common, it becomes obvious that it is time to dialogue, to listen to the signals from your body“sex-plore”, and “communicate”. How to overcome sexual blockages? This is the question addressed in this episode ofOrgasmiQ.
Take the example of Sophia, 24, who suffers from vaginismus. From her first intercourse, she felt intense pain, making penetration impossible. “Even during foreplay, it was impossible to introduce anything,” she explains. In a relationship for seven years, she has lived with this disorder for five years, but her partner remains caring and understanding, which relieves her.
Sexual blockages are not only physical, but also psychological. Lucie, for example, felt shame and guilt, which made it difficult to communicate her pain. “The more I couldn’t do it, the more the stress increased. My first times with a partner, it was always apprehensive. And the more I stress, the more I block”, she confides.
3 tips for communicating better with your partner
Whether sexual blockages take the form of vaginismus or erection problems, Charline Vermont emphasizes the importance of communication in any relationship. Here are some tips to facilitate intimate dialogue:
1. Find the mode of communication which suits both partners best: oral, written, visual or auditory, during the act, before or after.
2. Consult professionals such as therapists or sex therapists.
3. Use card games or apps (like XConfessions) to facilitate communication.
It is essential to create an intimate language specific to each couple and communicate openly about their desires and limits.
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