Sabrina Cournoyer was on the podcast Everyone hates each otheran episode where she opened up about her complexes, as is the principle of the podcast.
Towards the end of the episode, the columnist, who is single and aged 37, admitted that one of the downsides of getting older is that she has less and less time left to spend with a loved one.
“(…) I find that life goes too quickly (…) I want to build a life with someone too, I am still single, I find that this side of my life, which is another of my complexes, I don’t know what the outcome will be and there, I see time moving forward and I’m like: It’s boring, it’s a lot of years that I wouldn’t have spent with someone having plans (…),” she explains.
A little later, Sabrina returned to this complex, which she considers to be one on her patterns in love… and she elaborated more on the subject.
“(…) In fact, my complex is my pattern in love with attracting to me, really only boys who are emotionally unavailable (…),” she said, looking straight at the camera, with a smile on her lips.
The host then said that she was experiencing the same thing as her and we are sure that they are not the only ones!
“(…) They’re not bastards, no. These are not fine steps. I just want to make this clear, it’s not fine steps, it’s (…) emotionally unavailable (…),” adds Sabrina Cournoyer.
She then added that a pattern comes from within herself and explained that she has always been looking for validation that she is not capable of providing for herself.
“(…) I look for external validation and this external validation, it seems that (…) I have the impression that you have to fight to obtain the approval of others and that you have to fight to obtain the love of others (…),” she says, explaining that, often, when she meets men who she has a crush on, when things start to become serious and deep, they close up like oysters.
“(…) That’s when I’m going to be served the: Hey, ultimately, I’m not ready to offer more, I don’t think I’m there yet, I thought I was ready, finally… I’m not ready, you’re an extraordinary person, but I won’t be able to not do more (…) and it’s as if there were times when I persisted and so much the better, I changed, but I persisted in doing: Oh well no, it’s okay, I’ll take what you give me (…)”, being aware that it is not good to accept “crumbs of time” and to be in complicated and unclear situations.
She then claimed that she realized that she had put up with it for a long time since she thought it was a struggle and that’s what she deserved.
Sabrina also confides that her last year of dating was made up of complicated situations, as she described it, and that she had then recently realized that it was necessary to leave the relationship when the other person gives signals of reluctance to instead of fighting to convince her to be with her.
It is, however, a pattern which she has difficulty getting rid of.
