No one but your significant other knows what that word or nickname means that you use only behind closed doors. In every long relationship, we develop a “marriage language,” a sign of complicity and a secret to relationships that last.
In a couple or a marriage, everyone has their little nicknames, their favorite expressions and their jokes that no one understands. And if, from the outside, the “marriage language” can seem a little corny, even embarrassing, it would have benefits on the relationship. On TikTok, the trend launched by the hashtag “marriagelanguage” has more than 25 million publications and “Psychology Today” has deciphered it.
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Strengthening complicity
The interest of this language is to strengthen the complicity within the couple. Often, the nicknames, jokes, and tender voices that young lovers use appear at the beginning of the relationship. These “cute” habits help to strengthen a connection between the two people. American researchers Carol Bruess and Judy Pearson discovered during a study that there is a correlation between the use of terms specific to the couple and the fulfillment of a relationship. More often used at the beginning of a relationship, these languages facilitate the connection at the time when people need it most, in the midst of building the couple. They prove that these two people have a unique bond.
It should also be noted that this “language of marriage” often refers to a shared memory, which strengthens the bonds within the relationship. Each time one of the two partners launches…
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