A couple faces a complex situation where the needs of the mother-to-be, the unborn baby and the cat come into conflict. If everyone has legitimate concerns, the story will unfortunately end badly. It’s the future dad who tells his story on the famous Reddit forum.
A cat allergy developed during pregnancy
It all started when the mother-to-be, 6 months pregnant, suddenly developed an allergy to cats. It is quite common during pregnancies to develop allergies or for them to worsen. She then asks her partner to find another home for her feline. But the man is torn, because he adopted this cat 16 years ago and he does not want to hurt it by abandoning it. The man explains: “My wife wants to find the cat a new home. I don’t want to do that, he’s old, he only knows me and my wife, only knows our house, he’s never been around other humans or d “other animals I think it would be very stressful for him and, at his age, it could kill him.” What to do ? On the one hand, Internet users are clear: the future mother must be prioritized, especially because of her pregnancy. Cat allergy can be an additional Source of stress and potentially dangerous for her and the unborn baby. On the other hand, some point out that the cat has been an integral part of the family for many years, and putting it in danger or abruptly separating it could be traumatic for it.
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A compromise that does not find favor in the eyes of Internet users
The future father then suggests to his partner that they move in with her parents while the pregnancy is over and see if the cat allergy disappears after the birth. He offers this compromise as a temporary solution that minimizes stress for the cat while taking into account the health of the mother-to-be. And if the allergy persists after delivery or the baby is affected, he undertakes to find another home for the cat. “We can go and live with her parents (who live 10 minutes away and have no problem with us taking the spare room) until the birth and then, if the allergy persists for her or for the baby, I could look (with great care) for a new permanent home for my cat”he explains on the forum. “My wife told me I was an a**hole for prioritizing my cat over her and the baby’s health. I don’t want to traumatize my cat for something that might be temporary.”, he adds. However, some believe that this solution is not sufficient or even selfish, because it places the mother-to-be in an uncomfortable situation.
Sad end for the feline
Later, the father-to-be updated his post on Reddit. He explains that following reactions from Internet users, he began looking for another solution. “My brother lives a few hours away and he lived with my cat for a few years when we were younger, so I called him and explained the situation. He agreed to adopt her but was away so he couldn’t get it back for two weeks. I told my wife that we would have to keep the cat for a little less than two weeks, until my brother came and that, in the meantime, she would have to use medication for it. allergies or go to her parents She became furious and said she was not going to leave our house and that the cat had to leave as quickly as possible. I explained to her that it was the best I could do. that I wasn’t going to give my cat to the first person who passed by”he justifies himself.
But the next day, when he came home from work, he didn’t find the cat. “I asked my wife and she told me without hesitation that she had dropped him off at an animal shelter. She said, ‘I’m pregnant and unhappy and you didn’t want to get rid of him so I I did it”, he explains. He immediately goes to the shelter and, there, the cat does not seem to be there either. “When I showed the employee a photo of him she started apologizing. She said they put him with the other cats but later took in a big dog, and that they had to go past the cat cages to get to the dog cages. The dog jumped on my cat’s cage and barked at her, so my cat panicked and had a heart attack (according to her). died. She gave me her body in a shoebox.
“I went home with him. My wife started to apologize when she saw him but I ignored her and went straight to the garden to bury him. I called my brother to explain to him what happened. had passed. He started yelling into the phone saying my wife murdered my cat and I need to reconsider our relationship I just feel numb I didn’t say a word to my wife I think I did. I wouldn’t even be able to look at it, I don’t know what I’m going to do.”, testifies this man. The end of the story is harsh. If, at the beginning, it was he who handled the situation rather poorly, the fact that his wife got rid of the cat without telling him is also problematic, even if it did not lead to his death.
