A trying pregnancy, postpartum melancholy… the arrival of a baby is not just about cravings for strawberries and pastel onesies. Young mothers often come up against the sometimes deep and violent gap that emerges between the dreams they had and reality.
Clara Luciani was inspired by her pregnancy to write My bloodcomposed almost entirely before the birth of his son, on September 18, 2023, except for one song, “ Courageon the mental load, which came to me afterwards,” she revealed last month in M le Mag. We learned in particular that getting pregnant was “very beautiful for her, but also very trying, physically and mentally”.
Happy and melancholic at the same time
In an extract revealed by Gala from the show An hour with… by Bernard Montiel which will be broadcast on RFM on Saturday November 23, Clara Luciani looks back on the complicated period after birth that young mothers often face without daring to share their distress. 50 to 80% of them experience baby blues immediately after birth according to Ameli, and 10 to 20% experience postpartum depression in the following weeks or even months.
The 32-year-old singer did not escape this melancholy and experienced “a moment when I found it very difficult to manage my emotions because I was both the happiest woman in the world and at the same time, I had a rather inexplicable form of sadness. »
“It’s okay”
She also did not escape the guilt of not being entirely consumed by this happy event.
“The word is opening up around all this, we talk about it a lot more and we are supported from a medical point of view,” she continues. “But there’s always that guilt about feeling that sadness at that time in your life. »
The partner of Alex Kapranos, the leader of Franz Ferdinand, also had to mourn the image she had of her motherhood. “In fairy tales it doesn't happen like that”, and the images conveyed on Instagram of mothers in heaven don't help.
“We're just supposed to be nothing but happiness and smiles and instantly fall in love with our offspring. The reality is that this isn’t the case for everyone and that’s OK,” she concludes.
Hoping that her voice is heard by all these mothers who are each experiencing a unique and different journey.
